Showing posts with label Mr. Lifestyle. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mr. Lifestyle. Show all posts

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Silent Treatment

My silence has been a culmination of a terrible strain of the flu that I caught last week.

Influenza completely knocked me out taking my sugar along with it. I have not had the energy to foster any of my sugar relationships and so there has been virtually nothing going on as of late.

Lifestyle has been away on business which is perfect timing as I don't want him to see me in this condition. Winslow went back into hiding as he does usually. He has become ice cold but I expected it. At least I got a few bills paid on that ride. And Bostonian has disappeared after Halloween. I sent him a flirty, nonchalant text to catch his attention but no bite. O well.

That is all I have for now. All your stories have been keeping me entertained throughout this terrible sickness so THANKS!

Until there is real news....

xoxo

Monday, October 26, 2009

Sugar p.i.c.

After a long weekend of reconnecting with my long time BFF let's call her B (cause she looks like beyonce) I now have a sugar partner in crime!

I have not catered to our friendship in about 4 or 5 months. I have been super vague with her about the sugar goodies and we were also heading down two very different life paths. She is still in college living the lifestyle that I was a part of just a year ago. I on the other hand, graduated in May of this year and my "adult" life is not compatible with hers anymore. I can't pick up and take a road trip in the middle of the week anymore. I can't play beer pong until 5am on a Tuesday and I definitely can't "wing it" all weekend and see where life takes me. Those days are not over for me but definitely few and far between. I finally got a job in my major and I have to give it my all.

Anyways, I tentatively agreed to spend the entire weekend with her. I always have a BLAST with her but when we are together we get in a lot of trouble. So we went to Providence in NY on Friday night for a mutual friends birthday. Spent the night bouncing around VIP tables and dancing like maniacs. We left the club around 3am then headed to Greenhouse for the after hours until about 5am. Here is where things got fuzzy and I spilled the beans on my sugar lifestyle. Here is a taste of our convo:

[her] booo those shoes are ridiculous did you spend all your money on them?!
[me] (drunken mess) booo i have sugar daddies. sometimes they last longer then usual sometime then don't. I lied about a lot of the stuff you asked about cause it's complicated.
[her] are you kidding? what the hell boo. I'm your bff
[me] i know but i didn't know what your reaction would be
[her] umm hello??? get me one!

This was filled with slurs and laughing and it was great. So after Greenhouse we went to some crazy techno spot Pacha's until 9am!!! wowie I was sooo tired. We crashed at her place and spent all of Saturday fast fast asleep. I woke up around 4 from a phone call from Lifestyle. He wanted me to go to the club we went to last week. I asked him if my bffl could tag along and he said absolutely and he would find someone for her.

Well, someone was found and after a long Saturday night we spent Sunday afternoon at Bryant Park. All four of us! Ok so B always puts my life on the fast track and it's now Monday afternoon and instead of doing my job I'm sitting in my office blogging. But I'm glad we are reconnected and it seems like after this weekend we are back in inseparable mode as usual ;)

O and PS. no sugar sugar from Lifestyle which has me super worried.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

O, Lifestyle

Nothing major to write home about but me and Lifestyle had an interesting chat over dinner on Monday. He was all smiles and completely focused on me that night. It was cute bc he was obviously very interested in the Yankee game but he still managed not to tear his eyes away from me. I caught him in a full on convo about the game with our waiter when I returned from a bathroom break. LOL.

But I digress, as usual. He was telling me about his business and the many ways our relationship might end in the near future :( He is in the middle of a deal of sorts and if the deal does not go through he will be forced to go to Kiev immediately for about 2-3 months. This would completely bum me out. He says, he is trying to avoid this by all means necessary since he has an ongoing divorce to tend to and 3 young kids that he absolutely loves. But, he just wanted to prepare me. Now if things do work out with the deal this mean amazing things for me. My allowance will increase. Exponentially! Ughh, this would be my dream dream dream. This is all a very exciting time for him which is amazing to be there with him through it all. And if all goes well ladies, this means jackpot for me. I would not be without. EVER.

*Crossing fingers*

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Disclaimer*

All of my pots except for Lifestyle, Winslow, and now Bostonian have been cut off. I want to cater to these three only and hopefully cultivate some good long lasting SD's.

=]

Monday, October 19, 2009

Respect the jinx

I've always been superstitious of the "jinx." I'm always the first to say "Don't talk about it or you'll jinx it." In my first few posts I talked about anything and everyone and nothing seemingly happened. I have been keeping a lot of the big details hush hush these past few posts and am finding my sugar experience to be even more rewarding. Coincidence or was I really jinxing myself by blogging?? So because I am neurotic in some ways, I tried to figure out my the true jinx. My mom is Dominican and a big believer in the "fuku" (pronounced foo -coo). This is essentially "the jinx." I learned to respect it, regardless of whether or not I believed in its power. Maybe it's just my upbringing that's got me all wired out like a zealot. Point is, I find the less I get into the details of everything the bigger things get for me. But, writing it all out is therapeutic almost and really helps me organize my thoughts.

Saturday night was the best time. I met Mr. Lifestyle at the club (I went alone) and had a great time. We drank and I danced (he watched). We kissed, held hands, and even got a few shout outs from the DJ. It was all very cool and very fun. His nanny was there with her boyfriend which made me so uneasy. I thought she would be weird because she knows the wife but she was OK. She didn't talk to me much but she was still sweet. Her BF was very nice, maybe overly nice. But, I ignored whatever could possibly be going through his mind and had all eyes on Lifestyle. He loves that he is always saying how he believes people should be in the "present." Totally committed to whatever is in front of them.

Anyways, we had sex. It was awkward at the hotel. He was sleepy but trying to fight it because he wanted to have sex. He was hesitant, kissed e, hugged me, and barely made a move. I took over mostly because I was definitely needing it but also because I had promised my niece to take her to some adventure park a couple hours away and it was already 5am at this point. Anyways, It was pretty basic sex. I was on top for most of it. He was on top for a while but was sooo lackadaisical about it that I just flipped him around. We went round 2 which was a lot quicker. We napped for a bit and cuddled (yay!) and had a quick breakfast at 8am. He offered his truck so I can take my niece but I declined. I had already seen him for the past three days and needed a break to organize myself. I knew I would have to bring the car back and we would end up spending the night together. I am not looknig for a boyfriend. He gave me $1000 before i left!!!!!! YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAY! Anyways, we are going to dinner tonight at PF Changs. It's a chain restaurant and not the most amazing five star place but its my fav!

There is another pot (let's call him Bostonian) who I am slightly interested in. He is offering me 2K for 1 weekend a month. He lives in boston and wants me to take the trip out there once a month. I think that is completly doable. And so convenient. If it was just about the money I would just stick to the one guy. But I am interested in more. MUCH more. I want gifts, dinners, shows, trips. And 1 weekend a month won't supply all that but it will supply me with some extra spending money. He is due to call me this evening. Let's see.

My boyfriend is back. Big time. He is showering me with affection and love and undeniably amazing sex. We are just connected. He was the reason I went to the adventure park with my niece yesterday. He offered to take her and show her a good time. My niece (and now Hendrix) is my life and he knows this. Make her happy and you've got me. And she loves him. He has been around all her life so she doesn't understand when he's not around. And in all the years we have been together, he has made it a point to always spoil her. So yesterday started us off once again. Which means, my little break of going out and about whenever I needed to is going to be a little tougher.

I gave all that I could without the fuku coming after me!

xoxo

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Walking on Eggshells

Mr Lifestyle and I have moved into fast forward. We were only supposed to meet this Saturday at the club but he called me yesterday afternoon and asked if I would have dinner with him. I agreed although I was a little hesitant. But, there is just something about him that really has caught my attention.

He picked me up around 8 although we had plans for 7. I excused this because he was driving down to NJ from Buffalo and with the sucky weather and traffic it was almost a given that he would be late. I played it cool and got past it. We had some small talk on the drive over to the restaurant. Catching up on the pat few days, things we like/don't like, he talk about his kids (he does this a lot). Well all was well until he decided to call his hotel to confirm the reservation. (I ended up finding out his full name and later googling him, which turned out positively!) Apparently he made the reservations for November instead of October online and there was nothing available! Needless to say he ended up having to book a Hilton about 45 minutes from the restaurant, but he didn't let it stress him and he let it go.

The restaurant was nice and cozy. From the outside it looked like some hole in the wall but it was actually this awesome Spanish-Mediterranean spot with GREAT food. Dinner was pretty mellow we talked a lot about each other. I told him about school and my new job and he told me about his kids and life as a separated man. He was getting a lot of phone calls during dinner which some he answered and some he didn't. He does business overseas in China and Eastern Europe so most call were from overseas in relation to business. He was polite enough to excuse himself and explain what was going on and shower me with apologies after the calls. The only call I hated was from his divorce lawyer. Uggh that was annoying. He was going over the details of the alimony agreement right in front of me. He was putting his business on front street and I was not feeling it. The man doesn't like secrets much but still, TMI dude.

Well after the lawyer called I became a brat and started texting people while he talked so he could get the hint. The phone went on silent and in his pocket. Score 1 for Cherry. After that scenario everything went off without a hitch. He was very happy so let me order for him since I speak Spanish fluently and he was impressed. Me and the waitstaff were having great conversations about Spain and the little Spanish customs we were raised with and I could tell Mr. Lifestyle was genuinely happy to have me, the girl the entire waitstaff kept coming back to chat up, with him.

Well we ordered just about every appetizer, 3 pitchers of Sangria (red), and this huge Mediterranean Paella dish that had enough for left overs. We laughed a lot, and I even let him kiss me. It was a pretty great date. We tried this lava cake for dessert, hated it, and ordered ice cream afterwards. I LOVE a man who can eat like that and not have so many pretenses. Well he asked me if I wanted to go back to his room with him which I politely declined. I just did not want to give him the wrong idea (but in retrospect I wish I had). He was completely understanding and drove me home with two doggie bags and a special bottle of Sangria made by the restaurant.

This morning he called and invited me out shopping so I can find something for tonight. I gladly agreed. Although we didn't have much time because I have to go watch my niece's ballet recital. So I ended up not finding anything :( He handed me $300 cash and said if I had the chance to go get something quickly after the recital. We shall see....

Now I feel like this could be the true SD that I have been waiting for patiently. But I feel like the money and all that will have to wait. We had lightly discussed the monthly arrangement idea but we have not said anything concrete. We are in that stage where it seems like the best opportunity to jump into but I don't want to push. I am on eggshells here ladies. So the patience I had for the sugar hunt will now be applied to this situation. It's almost like a transition. I really do hope this goes the way I want because I am at wits end. If things don't pick up I think I will take a break from the search for the holidays.

I am going to meet with him tonight and plan on spending the night with him. Details to follow....

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

You better leave that 9 to 5 up on that shelf....and just enjoy yourself

So my sugar search has been pretty nice. There are lots of emails flying around but I guess I will only talk about those worth talking about. I realize that I was talking about everyone before and when I look back they were not worth the keystrokes ;) So with that my top 2.

I might as well get into the Winslow talk. We met in Miami in August of 07. His nephew was googly eyed over my bff who he met on the beach. Anyways, the nephew offered us a super VIP sort of night. Limos, poppin bottles, the works, and Winslow tagged along for the ride. Well, me and Winslow hated each other at first. HATED HATED HATED. He made some outlandish joke about us only being able to get VIP because of him. He was tooting his horn a little too loudly so I told him so. He didn't like that too much. It was a pretty quick back and forth of sly sarcasm, barely even a blip in the night but he made an impression on me. I've got foot in mouth syndrome and I'm generally sarcastic so I can appreciate anyone who can go toe to toe with me even if I hat them. Anyways, long story short, we ended up taking out alot of pent up frustration out in the sheets before I came back to NJ ;)

Fast forward a few months, and we are in this cat an mouse relationship. I'm the cat. FML. He was always a mystery to me. still is. He is one of those hot then cold type guys. Miami was hot towards the end of our trip. Then it got cold. then burning hot again. So, a "hot" Winslow meant, everything I wanted and then some. We met in August of 07 and by June of 08 i had to order extra page for my passport! I mean I had everything everything everything. I was spoiled rotten and loving it. But his cold bouts were terrible. No money, no trips, nada. So April of 09 I cut him off. Cursed him out gave him hell and said goodbye.

Now he's back. It's just a hot spell for now but it is what it is. No money yet. He let me go wild at pet smart though for Hendrix. And he took me to the Springsteen concert (i'm a jersey girl, what do you expect?). So, I'm actually holed up in his place now. Hendrix pick a funny looking plant to pee on and I'm ordering movies on demand like a mad woman while he works. I want to go get my Halloween costume with him and a Macbook Pro. Anyways, we are on hot right now. Super hot. And it's weird bc I'm soo comfy with him bc of the history. I am also going to ask him for rent money before he gets cold again. I'm well aware that this won't last long but its the most solid guy I've had in a while.

Next guy is the super lovely who I guess we'll call Mr. Lifestyle. I just met him yesterday morning for a cup of coffee. We had been talking on SA and emails for almost a month. I never took him serious and then he went and jumped to #2 in a heart beat. He was infatuated with me which was great. It was very strange bc I hadn't put so much stock into him so I was just my sarcastic ass self. No sugary sweet smile or nothing. His enthusiasm was such an ego boost that I actually was super duper real. No persona. weird. So Mr. Lifestyle is legally separated which he does not want to be. Someone narc'd on him to his wife so needless to say he is trying to get her back. He was very open about keeping sugar and real world s separate. He says he loves his wife and kids and in the end they are what he wants. But he says it's a "lifestyle" that he can afford himself so he will. The big red flag was that he mentioned wanting more kids, but not with his wife. ??? The way the conversation was going I didn't get if he meant that he wanted more if the divorce went through or regardless of if they were together or not. That was just odd to me. Anyways, we are going to some club that his friend owns this Saturday night which is going to be fun. I was thinking about bringing a friend along but after Chicago's birthday thing I might not.

xoxo