Respect the jinx

I've always been superstitious of the "jinx." I'm always the first to say "Don't talk about it or you'll jinx it." In my first few posts I talked about anything and everyone and nothing seemingly happened. I have been keeping a lot of the big details hush hush these past few posts and am finding my sugar experience to be even more rewarding. Coincidence or was I really jinxing myself by blogging?? So because I am neurotic in some ways, I tried to figure out my the true jinx. My mom is Dominican and a big believer in the "fuku" (pronounced foo -coo). This is essentially "the jinx." I learned to respect it, regardless of whether or not I believed in its power. Maybe it's just my upbringing that's got me all wired out like a zealot. Point is, I find the less I get into the details of everything the bigger things get for me. But, writing it all out is therapeutic almost and really helps me organize my thoughts.

Saturday night was the best time. I met Mr. Lifestyle at the club (I went alone) and had a great time. We drank and I danced (he watched). We kissed, held hands, and even got a few shout outs from the DJ. It was all very cool and very fun. His nanny was there with her boyfriend which made me so uneasy. I thought she would be weird because she knows the wife but she was OK. She didn't talk to me much but she was still sweet. Her BF was very nice, maybe overly nice. But, I ignored whatever could possibly be going through his mind and had all eyes on Lifestyle. He loves that he is always saying how he believes people should be in the "present." Totally committed to whatever is in front of them.

Anyways, we had sex. It was awkward at the hotel. He was sleepy but trying to fight it because he wanted to have sex. He was hesitant, kissed e, hugged me, and barely made a move. I took over mostly because I was definitely needing it but also because I had promised my niece to take her to some adventure park a couple hours away and it was already 5am at this point. Anyways, It was pretty basic sex. I was on top for most of it. He was on top for a while but was sooo lackadaisical about it that I just flipped him around. We went round 2 which was a lot quicker. We napped for a bit and cuddled (yay!) and had a quick breakfast at 8am. He offered his truck so I can take my niece but I declined. I had already seen him for the past three days and needed a break to organize myself. I knew I would have to bring the car back and we would end up spending the night together. I am not looknig for a boyfriend. He gave me $1000 before i left!!!!!! YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAY! Anyways, we are going to dinner tonight at PF Changs. It's a chain restaurant and not the most amazing five star place but its my fav!

There is another pot (let's call him Bostonian) who I am slightly interested in. He is offering me 2K for 1 weekend a month. He lives in boston and wants me to take the trip out there once a month. I think that is completly doable. And so convenient. If it was just about the money I would just stick to the one guy. But I am interested in more. MUCH more. I want gifts, dinners, shows, trips. And 1 weekend a month won't supply all that but it will supply me with some extra spending money. He is due to call me this evening. Let's see.

My boyfriend is back. Big time. He is showering me with affection and love and undeniably amazing sex. We are just connected. He was the reason I went to the adventure park with my niece yesterday. He offered to take her and show her a good time. My niece (and now Hendrix) is my life and he knows this. Make her happy and you've got me. And she loves him. He has been around all her life so she doesn't understand when he's not around. And in all the years we have been together, he has made it a point to always spoil her. So yesterday started us off once again. Which means, my little break of going out and about whenever I needed to is going to be a little tougher.

I gave all that I could without the fuku coming after me!

xoxo

R. and a puppy

R was not what I expected. He looked WAAAAY older then his photos but he dressed super sharp. He picked me up in a beautiful black Mercedes (I'm not good at all with types). Great interior as well. Wood panels, cream leather seats, very nice. When I got in the car smelled a little off but I later realized it was him (ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww). We went to Starbucks we talked about what we were looking for. But we had done this already so it was mostly about chemistry I guess. It was OK. I didn't feel connected or anything but he was nice enough.

Louboutin's did not happen. After our coffee he came up with some lame excuse about having to go. Not cool at all.

O well. The ex has been sooo full of it lately. But he got me a puppy! a pug! I love my new doggy sooooo MUCH! I still haven't named him yet :( So for now he is just Baby. I have not called to respond to my gift but his cousin is my brother's bff so I'm sure he heard all about my adoration of Baby already. He is so precious. pics up soon!

ps. send me any suggestions for puppy names!

Sugar Focused

Ok after the terrible terrible terrible night that was last night. I have decided to jump completely into the sugar bowl. I set up my schedule so I can meet all the potentials all week! It is nuts, I know! And maybe a little callous and overzealous but seriously after last night I refuse REFUSE to put myself back into the Ex's brain warp. Before I started sugar dating, if me and Ex got into it so insanely like last night I would date date date to my heart's content. Just for fun and just to keep my mind off of it. I never was one to wallow in the drama of it all. So now that the sugar world is my oyster I'd much rather spend my time meeting potentials then dating Joe schmo from work. So here is the breakdown for now. Some of these dates are tentative and I can pretty much guarantee at LEAST 1 flaking out. So here we go.

Sunday: I am meeting with R. We are set to me up for a coffee date and then some shopping (Louboutin's I am eyeing you) in the early afternoon. He is very much the guy I am most looking to connect with as he is offering not only the allowances but also the gifts, shopping, and travel :D

Monday: Repose. The day to rest and organize outfits for the week. I plan on having some wine and taking a sugar rest day.

Tuesday: The Exotic Lover. He loves all things exotic: women, food, places, etc. I don't know too much about him but he has made the point to agree on what I am looking for. Not really sure what this will lead to...

Wednesday: Mr. Boat. This guy sounds like it could work. He absolutely loves all the pics I have sent him and is so excited to meet me. He seems like normal/average guy with normal/average life. I think he half-expects me to wake him from his life coma. He is very blase

Thursday: Aladdin. He looks like the real life version of Aladdin. He's sexxxy. Very, I could get lost in his eyes. His first pic took me off guard so I asked him to send me some silly faces pics (I like a guy who can be a cornball every so often) just to prove he wasn't a fake. He rocked it! Sent me lots of silly faces that I wish I could post. I think this date is going to be the most fun. He said he wants to go to a concert and just act nuts. I love it.

Friday: Teeth. Finally he returns :) So he mentioned a spa date which sounds great. After my hard sugar dating week (and last night) it will be a great way to relax :)

Except for Teeth, these are all first dates so I am not really expecting any sugar goodies. I am suspending my accounts for the week and am going to focus on these guys for now and see where they lead me. As for Producer, I explained to him that he is seriously like a friend to me and I just can no longer take any money from him and I made him pinky promise to stay friends with me. He was a little put off but he seemed to be OK with it. I just got back from some good Panera bread with him which I paid for ( i wanted him to know that I'm hanging with him bc of his personality not his wallet)! I can't get enough of him he is like my new instant bestie. Luckily he let his guard down and we got into a whole life/love/sugar talk which was great. Crazy how we just met and I felt instantly connected to him. We are heading to some movie screening tonight followed by a music session at his friend's studio :)

As far as the Ex goes, he of course, is all apologies this morning. Flowers and my fav candies waiting at my doorstep. I was going to chuck it all but gave the flowers to my mom who is extra moody these days to cheer her up a bit, and gave the candies to my niece.

xoxo

Grammar Check

I've been branded a fat pimply Asian Man for speaking English correctly! Yep, Paranoia and I began e-mailing back and forth last night on some of what we were looking for. There was nothing in his profile that seemed off, he actually seemed pretty normal (with a SIIIIIICCCKKK body). Anyways, He had mentioned somewhere along the way that he needed discretion and he needed to feel safe. Fine. My response to this was " Discretion is a must for me as well so I think we are safe in that aspect." So then he said a 22 year old from my neighborhood would not speak this way so I apparently was "fat pimply Asian man" and also a "scam artist." LOL WTF? really? So my response was this:

Does "hey boo how you been" sound any better? I AM Dominican from nb and I'd rather break the stereotype then perpetuate it. Yes, I speak proper English and no my diction is not perfect but I'm also not a hoodrat. And trust me papo i can get down just like the rest of them but I'm a lady... 22 or or not I don't fall for the hype. And really, I'm not trying to meet up with someone that paranoid. I can only imagine your screening process and it's far from simple or fun. but thank your for time, bro.

1 love boo. hope the next girl you contact can be "on the down-low too."

I was so far beyond pissed and after not hearing back from him I patted myself on the back and let it go. This morning I check my e-mail and get this:

now THAT's the kind of woman i am looking for! smart, passionate, tough, and tender...sorry if i hurt your feelings, baby...i have a lot to gain by being with you, but even more to lose by being with the wrong person...so i have to be very careful..and you were giving me something short of reality...a level of professionalism that was difficult for me to see who you really are..let me apologize again and try to make it up to you? how about coffee at the W in ____ at 3:00pm on Wednesday? i promise to be nice and treat you like the woman you are...my feelings of insecurity were directed at someone else..

So that left me wondering, do i really need to "dumb it down?" Anyways, I have yet to respond to this and I'm glad he's got his tail between his legs but I don't even know if I want to pursue this...But that body!!

Alright. So I really have to run some errands before seeing Mr. Spontaneous. "The Boyfriend" called today with some depressing choice words. But staying strong and avoiding that melodrama all together.

xox0

A night out with Teeth

Last night was sweet. I was a little uptight at first because I'd had an argument with my "boyfriend" and our relationship is currently up for debate. I wore my favorite LBD, accesories, makeup, you know, the works. He picked me up in a nice sports car that he rented from the airport. He told me I looked great and he surprisingly looked much better then his pics. Well-dressed, great build for a man in his 50's. We went to this place by my house with sweeping views of NYC. It's my usual "go-to" spot for sugar dating. Upscale, intimate, and you have the option of enjoying a 5 star dinner or lounging at the bar. Anyways, it was a Saturday night and pretty packed and since we were just meeting for drinks we hadn't made any reservations (oops). We were standing around at the bar waiting for a place to sit and chat, me with my Cabernet, him withhis Vodka and club soda with lime. After about 20 minutes and some small chatter we found a spot. Well we ended up getting close almost immediately. Great connection and chemistry as I knew we would. He was very hands-on and pda which i love. We had plenty in common and there wasn't any awkward silence (YAY!). We ended up havingsome appetizers and he made me try this tuna dish which was wow! I mean he really showed me what it means to appeal to all the senses in your palette (he's a chef on the side). I couldn't have been more happy. We ended up kissing and had a little makeout session in his car.

Now on to the big negative. He never mentioned anything about any sort of arrangement. I didn't want to push any talk about it seeing as how we were just meeting to see if we were compatible. which he kept saying we are and even made plans to meet again on Wednesday. I had dropped a hint about wanting him to pay for my cell phone bill since it's so hard to communicate but he didn't bite (moron). Also, he insinuated that he wanted to go on to do the deed but I wasn't having it. He hadn't even mentioned the money part of all of this and he wanted a freebie. No shot.

Anyways, Mr. Spontaneous e-mailed me asking if we could meet on Wednesday for drinks (surprisingly at the same place I'd taken Teeth). I've already made plans and asked if any other day during the week would work. Still waiting for his response.

I'm so grateful for the sugar love I've been gettin lately and hopefully it will continue to get better.

xoxo

Sugar Surge

This update comes to you courtesy of my scatterbrained mind. I seem to have had a sugar surge and can't keep track of all the potentials. I knew as soon as I'd signed onto website #3 things would pick up. It just felt right. And my inkling was right. I've had more sugars contact me then I can keep track of. It might not be too many in comparison to some other SB's but to me, it's seems like alot.

#1: Teeth: O my sweet sweet Teeth. He called this morning to tell me he had gotten an early flight back and he wanted to see me tonight! I was so excited bc like I have said(insert vomit-inducing noises here) he is my top choice. I'm not sure why really. And I don't know if he can give me what I am looking for but for whatever reason I like him.

#2: The Doctor. He is an interesting guy. He seems to know what he is looking for. I don't think I fit his criteria but for whatever reason he continues to pursue me. Whether or not it will work is questionable. As much as I prefer monthly arrangements he prefers to pay per visit :( OK fine. whatever

#3: Mr. Spontaneous. This guy is tricky tricky tricky. He wants a sincere and genuine girl, not a pro by any means. (duh) And according to his profile he has more then enough to give me the world. And by the world I mean whatever my heart desires. He would set me up with a monthly allowance if all goes well. Also he's the guy that will call you Friday night to go to Paris with him for the weekend. Sheesh idk if I can handle all that, but I'm definitely par for the course ;)

#4: Boca. Didn't I give this douchebag up? Well i thought I did but he's on the back burner for now. My sister (yes sugarhunting runs in the family, read: first post, momma comes up) is interested in what he's offering. She does not have the time for the GFE and needs a guy who is in and out so to speak. Yes, the block of ice filling the cavity where my heart once was does tend to melt with these things. I'm not a Bocanette.

#5, 6, 7: Producer, Yaps, and LePeu. These three I bunch together only because I have completely ignored them for one reason or another. I'm still throwing them a bone every once in a while just in case. I have a problem with cutting the cord (See #4). Producer caught my attention from a CL (is that a pig flying by my window?) ad but he's so boring and Villagey. Yaps is looking for someone to have lunch with every day and talk about world politics. (yawn). And LePeu stood me up once before although he says it was traffic. Clearly i've been quite the asshole towards him.

Then there's the boyfriend. O yea did I forget to mention him? We have been together for years (6 in Feb). He's complicated. And by complicated I mean immature. He loves me, I am fully aware, but he is not ready to show me his love. He spends most of his time these days out drinking and gallavanting with his friends. This, I can't fault him for. He's 23, this is what you do at this age. BUT, I'm so far passed him mentally at this point that I just don't have the patience for him to catch up. Our relationship has been rocky from the jump. Passionate fights. Passionate love. Typical. Aside from all that he never took the time to go to college and at this point has no sense of direction for his life. Until he gets it together, CherryCakes is diving into the sugarbowl. Head first.

Tonight, is a night for celebrating. I spent last night in complete disarray. Asking God (or whoever is up there) to show me something. I've been feeling so hopeless. He sent me at least a nice night out with Teeth. THANK YOU! Now I must go figure out what to wear.

xoxo